It cannot be assumed that conjugal bliss is assured because you've made, for probably the first and only time in your life, a solemn vow in front of everyone who is important to you (otherwise, WTF are they doing at your wedding?), a pledge to love, honour and obey each other, forsaking all others, for as long as you both live.
I mean, holy crap! That's pretty damn serious stuff. And it sure puts the weight on you to keep it in your trousers except when you're at home.
You should take no comfort from the fact that the lack of rarity of solemn-vow trashing in society means that the degree of social ostracism for a bit of occasional extracurricular how's-your-father is not as extreme as it should be.
The price for an away-game is always too high.
And whether your having-a-bit-on-the-side is clandestine or whether it isn't, or whether you successfully conceal your infidelity or whether you don't, is neither here nor there.
You will know that your word isn't worth shit and that your self-esteem is merely self-delusion.
So just get on with it.
You made your bed, so bloody-well sleep in it. With your own wife.
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The essential ingredients for a happy marriage include love, devotion and commitment as well as patience, tolerance and insight, but the most important of these virtues is love.
Love ages and matures like a fine wine. It is a nebulous emotion which defies analysis and logical reasoning.
To paraphrase Pooh Bear, sometimes the more you think about something, the more there is no real answer.
Looking for an answer to the secret of a long and happy marriage is like asking for directions in Bundarra, where the locals will invariably tell you "I'm not too sure how to get there, but when you do, you'll really enjoy it".
To paraphrase Pooh Bear, sometimes the more you think about something, the more there is no real answer.
Looking for an answer to the secret of a long and happy marriage is like asking for directions in Bundarra, where the locals will invariably tell you "I'm not too sure how to get there, but when you do, you'll really enjoy it".
However, the Italians have a saying that might be of value: "Nel matrimonio, corteggiamento finisce con un funerale o con un divorzio" - "Courtship in marriage ends with a funeral or a divorce".
In other words, never stop chatting up your missus.
(Chatting up somebody else's missus is probably not such a good idea. It is interesting, but probably no surprise, that the Italians fail to mention this.)
Be kind to each other.
Enjoy the good bits.
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